Take a Breath
Take a slow and deep breath in and out right now and see how it feels.
It feels good. We should do it more often with conscious awareness.
Taking a breath can help avoid some tricky situations, as it provides an action that gives you a few seconds to relax and stop reacting to what is happening to you as if you were a machine.
I think we could all use this reminder to take a breath. Perhaps you’ve heard it before. Perhaps someone has told you to do this, and you thought it was silly. Today, try it out anyway and see what happens (especially if you didn’t do it above):
Take a Breath
Today, before you respond to hate with hate, take a breath.
Before you respond to toxicity with toxicity, take a breath.
Before you respond to someone who exaggerates or misrepresents the facts by doing the same thing yourself, take a breath.
Before you allow yourself to get triggered by the statements you read online, take a breath. And if this happens a lot, maybe take a break from visiting those sites.
Before you make someone feel inferior or as if they are not important, take a breath.
Before you think you know it all and that someone else knows nothing take a breath.
Before you feel the need to get back at someone who wronged you, take a breath.
Sure, life isn’t always that easy. But sometimes, we are just making things harder than they have to be. Sometimes we can feel like we must react and respond to everything happening around us, but that isn’t true.
Keep in mind that getting into heated debates with people is not a game with any real winners.
We have to be willing to take a step back when someone makes a hurtful comment and think:
Does the commenter seem genuinely interested in having a calm and reasonable discussion? (He should not be obviously trying to provoke a reaction). If yes, proceed.
Does the comment have some truth or basis in reality? If yes, proceed.
Am I capable of having a reasonable discussion with this person? If yes, proceed.
Will I know when to walk away if this ends up being an attempt to trigger me into getting angry and upset? If yes, proceed.
These are straightforward questions to ask yourself. If you cannot answer yes to all of these, do not get involved with people who make hurtful or potentially triggering comments. What is the point in walking into situations that will make you angry, upset, and feeling foolish?
Many of us have become obsessed with needing to be “right” and lost sight of whether being right even matters. If you “win” an argument by being toxic about it, then no one learns anything. You will end up becoming more set in your ways, and so will the person you argue with. Nothing is accomplished – in fact, it makes things worse somehow.
So the next time you feel the need to be right, take a breath.
Anytime someone does or says something that may have been intended to provoke or upset you, take a breath first.
Take more breaths in your day – nothing bad will come from it.
If someone asks why you are taking breaths, tell them it is to create a pause in between thought and action, or action and reaction, so that you can see and act with clarity. Encourage them to do it too.
Think – what would happen if the entire planet took a moment to take a breath at the same time? It would be a moment of peace and happiness, wouldn’t it?
