Real Learning Comes Through Transformation

“Learning—real learning, wisdom—comes only when you are transformed. It is not an additive process—you cannot just go on adding knowledge to yourself. You will have to go through a transmutation that is hard.” – The Buddha Said… by Osho

I am only on the fifth chapter (out of 22) of The Buddha Said… and already I can see that this book carries great wisdom. It will be worth reading carefully, applying, and rereading, and reapplying. That is what I plan to do. The knowledge in this book could take time and effort to master, as it seems to guide us toward enlightenment.

The passage quoted above was insightful to me, yet it may appear quite obvious on its surface. I have found that most worthy wisdom is just that. It seems obvious and straightforward and often even easy to apply, yet very few of us do.

For example, I can tell you that getting impatient is bad. The next time someone is irritating you or provoking you, ignore it. Let it be. Take a breath and pay attention to something worthwhile in life.

Yet, for someone with the habit of impatience, will they listen and change?

Or I can tell you that to be lazy is bad. Do not waste this life. Go out and have the courage to find something that truly matters to you and that will make a difference in this world. Stop doing the bare minimum to get by and increase the standard you expect from yourself.

Yet, for someone with the habit of laziness, will they listen and change?

Or I can tell you that to be vengeful is bad. Stop wishing to get payback on all those that commit wrongs against you. In some cases, they are poisoned from having been wronged, making them want to wrong others. And in other cases, they don’t know the wrongs they commit and do so through a lack of awareness. Lastly, as we have all heard, “An eye for an eye leaves everyone blind,” so is this something we want to give energy to?

Yet, for someone with the habit of vengeance, will they listen and change?

As you may guess, I find it unlikely that the person with a habit of something will suddenly change their life from being exposed to mere words.

Despite that I work as a writer and earn my living this way, it is painful to admit that the words themselves are empty if they don’t cause personal transformation. The learning, the knowledge, the wisdom, the teachings—all of it is empty, useless, and fruitless if we do not change from within.

Yet I have seen, as you have seen, that most of us know the right things to do, to be, to say, and yet fail to do them. Perhaps we need to come to the awareness more deeply that the only worthwhile learning was not in the accumulation of knowledge, facts, or even the pursuit of higher understanding.

Rather, the only worthwhile learning was in whether we could become aware, change who we are, and perform new and better actions. Awareness is not enough—to be aware is to see that something is happening. But to see it and do nothing seems to be a massive failure, worse than not having seen it at all.

If you see a wall and walk into it, isn’t that somehow worse than someone who never saw the wall and walked into it accidentally?

We must become aware, change who we are, and perform new and better actions.

The point is to do something with all the accumulation of knowledge and facts. Otherwise, the learning was useless. This is not something we hear often.

I am a big believer in education and learning. But what we often forget is that as humans, what we learn should be causing some change within us. And that change within us should cause some change in the real world.

In a similar vein, Mahatma Gandhi said:

“If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him.”

If I read the tragic history of a people, and then I live my life normally, without my heart having grown, giving to charity, or learning more about their present-day struggles, then what have I truly learned?

If I “learn” by acquiring facts, and change nothing, then isn’t that a personal failing?

Yet, the point of this post is not to make us all feel guilty for anything we ever learned, where we failed to convert it into some positive action. The point is to see that we need to be brave and encourage these personal changes to happen.

I have seen many highly educated people increase their learning and awareness while failing to grow at all. I’ve been guilty of this too.

How much time do we spend reading the news versus actually doing something about the world's tragedies?

How much time do we spend educating our children about “the real world” while denying them the ability actually to participate in it?

And how much do we consume books or media while not producing something worthy in return?

Having written this post up to here, I believe you probably already knew everything I just stated. So if we already knew, why haven’t we committed to acquiring more helpful ideas and performing more actions that could help us change more profoundly?

The reason is that we fear change. Even for those who want progress, it still can feel scary or overwhelming to make a significant change.

But we don’t need to make massive changes in every area of our lives, suddenly.

We can decide on certain things that we find to be important and then invest ourselves into them.

I use the word invest because when you invest, you risk losing something. Your risk may be that you hope to help improve something, and in the end, you don’t make much of an impact. Then you may be let down or upset. But of course, we have to be willing to risk losing something to make our impact.

The outcomes we desire are never guaranteed. There is always a risk. We need to choose which risks are worth taking, where we can hope to gain a worthy experience that transforms us.

I think we fear changes because we tend to fear death. Change is the death of something old and the birth of something new. However, why should we fear it? We can guide the change in our lives by moving away from those things that do not work, which are not fruitful, and moving toward the ones that are.

We may find that the greatest life lessons come from the most significant changes within us or around us. Yet great changes imply some form of loss, which again is what we fear. We must become comfortable with the idea of losing something (or someone) if we ever wish to gain anything that truly matters.

We cling even to the things that don’t do us much good because they are familiar. They make us feel at home. But sometimes, that home is worth letting go of, to introduce something that compels us to grow.

In the end, we will lose our lives and everything we ever gained. All of that was temporary. But if we work on transforming ourselves, we will leave a permanent impact on the people around us and on the universe itself.

The universe is not static—it is ever-evolving and changing. Perhaps we could learn something from that.

The key lesson of the day is that we should continue to learn. But for that learning to be worth something, we should be ready and willing to change from within. This can mean seeing the world in a new way, feeling in a new way, and then deciding to stop doing something we used to do—and doing something in a way that we never did before.

We have not truly learned unless we have been transformed from the inside.

As a practical tip, after you read something or learn something, ask yourself:

What has truly changed?

If nothing, then ask:

What can I change, and should I change, given what I just learned?

The Tides are Changing

The main constant in this life is that things are always changing.

Things are always changing, aren’t they? Whether it’s the seasons, the moods, the expectations, the tides, the goals, and so on….

Maybe we are changing too. If you’ve visited this site in the past, maybe you’re no longer the same person you were back then, even if just a few days or weeks have passed.

When I was a child, I often had a peculiar experience. If I hadn’t seen someone in a year or two years, I would feel like I had changed so much, and I felt strange that this person may try to relate and get along with a prior me rather than the actual me.

Perhaps my inner world was unfolding and developing quite fast, and my physical growth could not match it. Anyone can tell that a child has grown in a year or two, but who can witness or comprehend the mental changes that have happened?

We are always changing, and hopefully, for the better. For example, we are always learning new things. You can learn facts from books, or you can gain experience and learn things firsthand. You may learn about the people around you. Due to your experiences, you may even learn about yourself. And those new things that you learn may cause you to change your direction or goals in life.

Beyond just learning, of course, we are always exposed to changes: the weather, the time, the people around us coming and going, our life goals, travels, new jobs, new relationships, etc.

What do you think about change?

When you sense that everything around you is moving in a new direction, do you assume that this is bad? Is that your natural reaction? Or is your reaction that you want to change too, to move along with the tides of change.

To you, is it more important that you follow the changes happening around you in the real world or that you pay attention to any inner changes happening within you? Are some changes trivial to you, and others more important?

As humans, we want to exercise great control – over ourselves, each other, even the planet, and perhaps the stars and galaxies one day. However, it seems that everything comes and goes. We may be visitors here to enjoy and experience what we can. That is the nature of change.

On a cosmic scale, who knows whether we will adapt to the changes or create our own changes in a way that benefits us, or we may ultimately fail in some way, and then things will keep on changing without us.

Life is about change when you think of it. If things stayed the same, then time would freeze, and nothing would move.

Whether we flow with the changes happily, deal with them and adapt to them, ignore them and go in our own direction, or resist them, we are here because things keep changing, and we will be gone because things keep changing.

Whether a change is good or bad, it keeps things moving along. What is old goes away, and something new comes in its place.

Change prevails at the end of the day, with or without our acceptance or desire for it.

Today I wonder: Are we the product of change, the cause of change, the beneficiaries of change, or the victims of it, and is this something we will choose for ourselves? What do you choose?

Is It Worth Reading if It Isn’t Tweet-Worthy?

The other day I had a thought that could apply to many of us:

Most people started off reading books, made their way to articles, and ended up at tweets and headlines.

Is this how the devolution of human thought begins?

Before you think I am accusing you of anything, I can admit that to some extent I have gotten into this pattern myself. I still read books, but I do find myself scrolling through headlines to get the gist of what is goinkg on. Partly, this is due to the fact that so many apps encourage this. Facebook, Twitter, Google News, Reddit (and probably loads of other apps and social media) are all organized as never-ending feeds.

You can scroll down to your heart’s content, and never reach the end. This is a bottomless well of information and entertainment. Rather than needing to click or select anything, you can keep scrolling down. It’s comforting, like a friend who is always there for you.

You may not even feel the need to actually read the articles, as the headlines may tell you all that you felt you needed to know. You can feel like you know so much, while actually knowing so little. You get dopamine bursts as you continue to scroll down, learning more and more, about less and less.

When it comes to these apps, tomorrow’s posts will probably contradict today’s posts, but tomorrow is another day, and so we are not worried about that for now. Even if there is no contradiction, tomorrow’s posts will continue along a path with many twists and turns, as if a never-ending soap opera. Since the drama is never-ending, there is no need to really dig deep. You can ride along the surface, scrolling down mindlessly, endlessly, in a loop, day after day.

When someone asks what you’re doing. There Is no longer a need to say that you are on a particular app, as they mostly function in the same way.

When they ask what you are up to, you can respond:

“I’m just scrolling.”

f you are about to scroll, and you haven’t yet begun, you might say:

“I’m going for a scroll.”

I admit maybe I’m being alarmist (and facetious), but sometimes I wonder if we are scrolling our minds away.

When I lived in Paris, I recall crossing a crowded street with pedestrians, and most people had their phones out. Loads of people proceeded to bump into each other like bumper cars, not saying anything, not acknowledging what had just happened. They kept moving along, kept staring down at their phones. Were they on GPS? To cross the street – seems dubious. Were some of them scrolling? Probably. (In defense of the French, many of these people were probably tourists – and of course, this could happen anywhere.)

Often when I am on Facebook, someone may post an article, and then there is a flood of comments, outraged at the premise of the article. Inevitably, multiple people comment that no one actually read the article. The article apparently did not state what people thought it would claim. People have gotten angry, outraged, attacked the author’s competence, sometimes even taking the dramatic action of “unfriending” some of their long-time “friends” over a petty disagreement about this article, all the while not having actually read the article.

Many of us don’t want to take the time to read and learn. We want to form an opinion and spread it, even if this is just based on a headline’s worth of information.

And we now know headlines are designed to get you to click.

Then if you manage to click, most of us expect a list (e.g., 5 Steps to…) or some quick way to scan the material.

This could make sense to make the reading process more efficient – but it seems like scanning has become a way of life. Sometimes I am having a conversation with someone, and it looks like they are scanning for something better to come their way. Similarly with reading, if we can’t absorb the material in seconds, we become impatient. Rather than us needing to work harder to understand, we tend to blame the material as not being Tweet-worthy enough. Are we at the point of needing catchy headlines and convenient bullet lists, otherwise we can’t read and understand? If so, this is quite the devolution in our comprehension abilities.

Just yesterday, I had a dream or a vision. I thought – What if people read? What if they didn’t keep scrolling? What if they not only read but what if they actually found something worth reading? What if they actually desired to learn and understand first instead of wanting to spread their ill-formed and baseless opinions?

And then I woke up, and instead of dreaming, I decided to write this post.

5 Steps to Reading Insightfully:

1.     Learn to read

We all think we know how to read, but maybe we don’t. Maybe we are stuck at reading in a basic way, not reading or thinking critically. Whatever you are used to reading, seek out material that challenges you more deeply to improve your reading skills, learn more, and deepen your understanding.

2.     Read to learn

Reading is one of the best ways to learn. You will exercise your thinking, logic, imagination, questioning, and problem-solving, all while learning new things. We can read for fun, but we should also read some books to learn.

3.     Learn to understand

When you learn, you will come to an understanding of life and the world. You will start to see and perceive more fully, more deeply. We shouldn’t learn to accumulate random facts but instead, aim to focus on facts that help us understand.

4.     Understand to form useful opinions

As you understand things on a deeper level, you will begin forming novel and useful opinions and think more critically. People may even start to come to you to see what you think about a topic. These useful opinions are your reward for having read and learned deeply. Many of us want to believe that our opinions are useful, but this isn't easy to accomplish without meeting the prior steps.

5.     Form useful opinions to enact meaningful change

Work on developing opinions that can help to change things for the better. This can be done in virtually any field, but in general, the idea is to help solve problems and help humanity, life, or the world somehow. At this stage, you are not the only one rewarded, but society itself is also gaining from your deep reading and thinking abilities.

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If you would like a guide to better reading, you may be interested in reading one of my books - The Insightful Reader: How to Learn Deeply & Attain Life-Changing Insights from Books