It Runs Both Ways – What Flows Out Flows Back In

Today when you find yourself blaming someone else and absolving yourself fully of any responsibility, remember that it runs both ways.

When you get upset that a friend has not called you in a long time, remember that it works both ways. Perhaps you have not done your part in making this friendship work. Perhaps you have only thought of picking up the phone at times and not actually done it.

When you do your work halfheartedly and can’t wait until it’s time to go home all day, every day, then how can you be surprised to be met with this same halfhearted attitude everywhere you go? Perhaps you go to your boss, and he doesn’t seem to care about you or your life. You go to your kids, and they don’t care. You go to the store and ask for help finding something, but the person who works there isn’t concerned with your problems.

When you are lonely, and you want someone to be there for you and support you, ask yourself – what was the last time you were there for someone in need? Did someone want your help at some point, and you were not fully engaged in helping them? Perhaps you offered to help, but it was obvious you were not truly interested in being there.

When you are toxic and only see the negative in everything around you, pointing out the flaws and problems in all that you see constantly, how can you be surprised if the people around you become bitter and only see the negative in you? How can you be surprised when all they want to do is avoid you?

When you walk in the streets, distracted by your phone, and a vehicle almost hits you because the driver was distracted, how can you be upset by this? Sure, the driver of a vehicle is responsible for driving safely and paying attention. But isn’t someone who is walking around vehicles also responsible for walking safely and keeping his distance from vehicles?

When you are mad that all the people around you are selfish and only looking out for themselves, ask yourself – what have you done that was motivated by truly helping someone else, and not just to benefit yourself? And for whatever excuses you come up with, understand that the people around you who have acted selfishly probably have the same reasons.

When you expect or ask something from your subordinates, and you don’t live up to that standard yourself, you cannot be surprised when they lose respect for you. If you are going to ask the people below you to do something (e.g., to arrive on time), you should meet the same standard or better for yourself.

When you focus on punishing all the people around you for minor mistakes and wrongs, what else can we expect than them wanting us to be punished equally any time we would commit a minor mistake? You may argue – “No, this is different. I have a good reason.” But did you listen when other people had their reasons?

When you want to control someone else’s way of life because you don’t think they are smart enough or capable enough, how can you be surprised when someone who views himself as superior to you wants to do the same to you?

Whether poison or love, anything that flows out of you ultimately flows back in.